By Sonya Maya, PsyD
How toys like the OG3 by Tracy’s Dog can enhance your sex life with yourself…with a partner, or within a relationship.
You may have heard about the various health benefits of self-pleasuring and orgasms, but did you know that incorporating sex toys in the bedroom can help improve your relationship and overall pleasure during partnered sex? By incorporating a sex toy like a vibrator, clitoris sucker, etc., you can find new ways to spice things up with a partner in the bedroom (or kitchen counter, shower, dining room table…wherever you wish)
I have read various studies discussing how sex toys can be a valuable addition to the bedroom for decreasing stress, increasing blood flow, and increasing overall pleasure. Furthermore, according to a study by Watson et al. (2016), using a vibrator with a partner can increase sexual pleasure. But what if your partner feels hesitant or insecure about incorporating toys?
Navigating feelings of inadequacy
Some individuals experience negative emotions associated with the idea of incorporating sex toys due to misconceptions about sex or being exposed to harmful narratives. One of the most common concerns is the fear of being “replaced” by the toy or feeling “inadequate” if their partner wants to use them.
If you have experienced such thoughts or can relate to this dynamic, I would love to offer a gentle reframe and change in perspective. It’s important to think of pleasure-increasing products as an addition to play, not a “replacement.” Same as when it comes to using lubricant, a cock-ring, or an anal plug! All of these can be helpful tools for your spicy-time toolbox.
Although toys help people (women, men, vulva owners, penis owners, etc) achieve very explosive pleasure from strong vibrations or other fancy features, objects cannot replace the value of a human to human connection/intimate bond. However, by expressing willingness to level up a sexual experience with a toy, research shows this may increase overall relationship satisfaction (Watson et al., 2016), not hinder it or cause a competition with the product. People tend to express increased satisfaction when their partner(s) prioritizes reciprocal pleasure with transparent communication, they are more likely to anticipate pleasure within future sexual experiences.
How sex toys can spice things up
A lot of men/penis owners are insecure about their size, therefore, incorporating a toy can be a very effective method for using something else to stimulate your partner besides your love muscle (or prior to penetration). Extending foreplay with use of a toy may be the key to spicing things up, especially since most women/vulva owners require clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm (if an orgasm or two or three or more is the goal).
For those who experience sexual dysfunction, they may feel less comfortable using toys (Fippen & Gaither, 2023). However, incorporating sex toys can increase arousal due to the increased intensity and potential pleasure (Rullo et al., 2020). Even more reason to try new methods for expanding or diversifying pleasure!
How to incorporate a toy? More specifically…
For women/vulva owners who experience pain during sex, incorporating a toy can help them enjoy certain positions that may be painful otherwise. For example, doggy style can be quite painful due to the position allowing deeper penetration. If the person receiving penetration stimulates the clitoris with a clit-sucker or vibrator, the pleasure can help balance out the pain in a delicious way, this sometimes even leads to combined or full body orgasms!
Partners can also use toys during sex dates or spontaneous play. Sometimes this may involve mutual masturbation, giving and receiving sensual/erotic massages, or watching sexual content together.
When it comes to using a vibrator, there is no incorrect way and toys can be used all over the body, not just the genitals (Ruller et al., 2020). I personally love using toys like the OG3 on my nipples during solo or partnered play (nipples have A LOT of nerve endings). Stimulating the nipples, even on your own, tends to activate the genital sensory cortex of your brain (Komisaruk et al., 2012). This is a recipe for nipple-gasms or combined explosive pleasure (and yes, you deserve it).
How the OG3 has continued to impress!
One very popular toy by Tracy’s Dog is the OG 3. Here is a video I made reacting to funny reviews about their products: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTj24f7rk/ if you’re looking for an edu-taining laugh, haha.
One amazing part of the OG3 experience is that it has clitoral stimulation AND the wand detaches, so you can use it on your G-spot very easily while maintaining the perfect angle. In the past, I have tried sex toys that are less compatible with my body and when you are unable to detach the insertion part, this often limits pleasure capacity based on your anatomy (such as how far your clitoris is from other erogenous zones).
With the OG3 you can finish quickly, or challenge yourself to have more intense Os with edging (a stop and go method that helps intensify pleasure). Combine pleasure for earth shattering orgasms…over and over again (like that one catchy song feat. Nelly from the early 2000s, if you know you know). I love to reminisce…
Entertaining and Insightful OG3 Reviews
Since the reviews tend to be extremely informative and also pretty entertaining, let’s look at some insightful reviews that stuck out to me when on their website:
“I can’t even talk right now.”
The fact that they put effort into writing a review when they were speechless is a pretty good sign that this product is worth a try!
“I Have No Words…I'm a woman that's spent countless dollars on various toys and products over the years but this one is by far the absolute very best. I honestly have no words to describe the pleasure I receive from the OG 3. 1 literally cannot remember the last time I had such an earth shattering orgasm!!!! This is THE BEST investment I've ever made. My only regret is that l didn't purchase it sooner. My nights will never be the same.”
Earth shattering, indeed! Super relatable. This is a very satisfied customer to say the least. Good value and it just keeps on giving!!!
“AMAZING!! My partner and l used it the first night and I swear this is the toy if you want the most body chilling intense orgasm! He said it was so easy to use and loved it, l agree on the easy use when using it for myself. Please do not hesitate to get this one, it's easy for your partner and easy for you.”
I absolutely love how this person shared how the OG3 helped spice things up with a partner! This review truly exemplifies how you can use it with someone else with ease and delight.
“ OH. MY. GOD. When this arrived, my fiancé was almost too excited to lock ourselves in the bedroom for the rest of the day! If using this on myself feels amazing, having my fiancé use this on me gave me an out-of-body experience. I recommend everyone to encourage their partners to join in on the fun! 10/10!”
The best excuse to take off work, but make sure to make up another excuse to your boss, haha. Lock in and enjoy intimacy with your partner + the OG3! I can definitely relate to the “out-of-body experience.”
“This is worth every penny. I actually feel I should continue to pay them on a subscription basis or something because BABY when I tell you your toes are about to lock up in the tightest curl of your life about this toy I mean every word. I nearly passed out.”
I have read many reviews that explain the “toes locking up” and nearly “passing out.” The OG3 is a lot more reliable for this intense pleasure than dating someone who claims they “know how to make you cum” before learning what you like. With the OG3, YOU have the control, and that’s empowerment!
All of this to say: give yourself permission to experience pleasure on your own or with a worthy partner. The OG3 is a solid investment in your self-care and you have the potential to increase your relationship with yourself and others while improving your health at the same time!
References
Watson et al. (2016)
Fippen & Gaither, 2023:
https://journals.library.columbia.edu/index.php/gsjp/article/download/10143/5530/28566
Rullo (2020):
https://doi.org/10.1080/14681994.2017.1419558
Komisaruk et al. (2012):
