Recently we received an email from one of our male customers. “I found my wife prefer using the vibrator I bought from you than having a real sex with me. Can I get my refund? I wanna return it. ” And as I go thought all the blank area he leave, at the end of the email: “Just kidding... Thanks for your great product, we loves it.” What a lovely customer, thank you if you ever see this article.

However does a vibrator can replace real sex? Should one consider a vibrator a threat to their relationship?

The fact that many people are less experienced when it comes to sex toys makes me think that vibrators are only for women, but that is hardly the case. Despite the opinion of some men, women do not use it as a substitute for sexual intercourse with a man, and there are previous studies suggesting that many men find the use of a vibrator threatening.

In my years as a sex toy seller, I have learned that many women are excited when they get their first vibrator and actually want to use it with their partner, but don't know how to raise it without causing their insecurity. I used to think that was because they were usually marketed as female replacements for a partner. 

This is not the case with my friend Candy, who says that she can only have an orgasm with her husband when she uses a vibrator as well. Once she gets her vibrators, she will be easily turned on, her attitude to sex is, "I'll forget about it and let the rest of you do it for me."

But that's not always the case. Peter, my high school mate says, “I want to have as much pleasure as possible, but I also don't want her to pull out her vibrator every time she has sex so that she can get as close to an orgasm as she will get. ” He always insist his opinion for some reasons. “I would not be cool if a man used a sex toy on a woman, if she could not orgasm with her cock on it, but I would think it cool if you could orgasm with the dildo itself. ” 

Maybe some men share his opinion, but some of them have no problem with their partner use it either solo or together. Actually there is more men are happy to use a vibrator as a tool to help both him and his partner “to get there”. If you put a vibrator on its highest vibration level and place it under the hood of the exposed area of clitoris, your partner will reach the climax every times.

As a lady, If you are a private person who does not want anyone to know that you are using a sex toy, you might want to consider a clitoris suction device, which is quiet. When a vibrator is used as an orgasmic tool instead of playing with itself during the penetration process, it can be used as a clitoris stilmulation , apply it to your clitoris while you are having sex, and you will also feel good. 

But I have to warn you here, while you typically experience cramps and mild pain during orgasm, using a vibrator during your period can make you feel even more uncomfortable. 

If you are having a hard time reaching orgasm and want to have one, adding a vibrator to your sexual toolbox can help and provide intense stimulation. Whether you want to use the toy solo or with a fun sex partner, vibrators can be an amazing addition to the bedroom.

Remote vibrator in the underwear

If you already have a normal vibrator, a vibrator inside your underwear can also be a good addition to an existing sex toy repertoire. This fun sex toy has a pre-shape surface that perfectly attach to your labia and the clitoris. When it vibrates, the excitements will go around with you where ever you go. Oh, it also has a remote, your partner can use it to control the vibrator in you underwear, think of any creative ways to use it?

Talk to your partner about their sex toys and understand why they like to use them, and maybe even buy one for you. If you have a vibrator or dildo you want to use, probably with a former partner , which is good, but if you can muster it up from time to time, you take the reins, participate and enjoy watching him interfere in the action, invest in quick participation and overcome his "vibrator fear" and absorb everything.