Most of the time, the terms "ruined" and "orgasm" are not a great match. Nonetheless, this concept exists, and, contrary to what it appears to mean, a ruined orgasm is a goal you should strive for at least once in your life. Although, after experiencing such pleasure - because yes, a ruined orgasm can turn into tremendous joy - you will want it again and again.
Of course, some people will always seek orgasm, while others will frequently fantasize about a ruined one. Each of us perceives pleasure and sexual experiences differently, but before you try something new in bed, it would be ideal to know some specifics about the direction you want to go.
Before we glorify or abolish the ruined orgasm - regardless of the direction we are taking - it would be useful to explain what a ruined orgasm is, where it came from, and what its purpose is.
What Is a Ruined Orgasm?
A ruined orgasm is a BDSM practice in which there is a dominant and a submissive.
As a result, when the dominant notices that the submissive is reaching the climax, they will stop the stimulation. In this manner, the intensity and sexual satisfaction decrease from maximum to near-minimum levels.
This practice may not be ideal for some. And it’s quite understandable - why would you want all of the pleasure you feel during a sexual act to vanish in the blink of an eye? Mainly, the goal of all sexual experiences is pleasure. This pleasure, however, can be felt in a variety of ways, such as through connections between partners and mutual desires.
And a ruined orgasm is exactly about that. And a bit more about teasing.
People who prefer to be controlled in the bedroom, to play the submissive role during sexual intercourse, naturally find such practices pleasurable. Otherwise, the ruined orgasm is classified as a fetish.
How Does It Feel?
Despite the references to BDSM practices, fetishes, and other words used to describe less popular experiences, most people have had a ruined orgasm at least once in their lives.
It could have been a phone call just before the climax, or it could have been a thought that rattled you out of your trance. Frustration, disappointment, and possibly a little anger are likely emotions you felt in such situations.
So, where exactly is the pleasure that we discussed earlier? A ruined orgasm does not necessarily prevent you from having an orgasm at all. It could be about a low-intensity orgasm, for example.
Or, better yet, it could be an attempt to magnify sexual tension just before a powerful orgasm. In fact, stopping just before an orgasm and starting the stimulation from the beginning is a well-known practice that usually results in extremely strong orgasms.
Yes, this is commonly referred to as edging, and many would argue that it can't be classified as a ruined orgasm because the end goal is different.
But no one said that sex is bound by strict rules, and combining different practices can open up new avenues of pleasure, transforming your sex life in ways you never imagined.
Delivering a Ruined Orgasm
Whatever your ultimate goal, you can have a ruined orgasm for the sake of adding another experience to your long list of things worth trying at least once in your life.
There are some tips and tricks to consider to ensure that you deliver on your promises to your partner.
Look for Consent
Let's start with the fact that you should never consider doing this unless your partner agrees. Nobody wants to be left high and dry when they're feeling great. The first thing you should do is talk openly with your partner about what you want, but also about the reasons behind that desire.
It's time to get to work if you're both eager to experiment with something new. Try to stimulate your partner's erogenous zones. Do it the traditional way, or use sex toys to add more pleasure to your partner's life.
Stop In Time
Stop what you're doing if you see your partner is close to the climax, no matter how difficult it is. As a result, your partner will have a ruined orgasm. We recommend that you turn this ruined orgasm into an edging, which will take your pleasure to an unprecedented level.
Perfect Sex Toys for a Ruined Orgasm And More
As said before, you can always use sex toys to add pleasure to your partner's life and intensify the ruined orgasm.
Here are a few examples of Tracy's Dog collection sex toys that are ideal for an overwhelming sex life. However, there are numerous options to choose from, so we invite you to browse the entire collection of clit sucking vibrators and couple's vibrators to explore even more possibilities.
The OG Pro 2 is a toy worth owning because it can completely change your perspective on sex toys, taking you to new heights of pleasure. Furthermore, because it is remote-controlled, this toy allows for new experiences, this time from distance.
- 3-in-1 vibrator for extensive pleasure;
- Remote-controlled for hands-free fun;
- High-quality materials;
- Different levels of intensity.
The P. Cat is one of the most discreet sex toys on the market, allowing you to spend quality time with your partner or alone wherever you go because it is portable. With different suction modes, The P. Cat is specially designed to bring you to complete bliss.
- Easy to use;
- Discreet and portable;
- 10 Suction Modes;
- 3 different levels of intensity.
The Alpha Rabbit is a sex toy that can be used in a variety of ways, including clitoris stimulation and G-spot massage. With different levels of intensity, this toy will be your companion in any new sexual experience you want to try.
- 7 vibration modes;
- 7 sucking modes;
- High-quality materials.
When a ruined orgasm is unplanned, it can be unpleasant, but it can also be very interesting if you want to try something new.
Moreover, this ruined orgasm can be transformed at any time into edging, resulting in maximum sexual intensity and pleasure. Because the possibilities are endless when it comes to broadening your sexual horizons, you can combine these two sexual experiences to unlock new levels of sensations.