You’re single, and it’s Valentine’s Day – how are you feeling?
When I think of my single friends, half of them LOVE celebrating solo, and the other half get all melancholy and start saying things like “I’m going to die alone”… dramatic, I know.
My favorite Valentine’s Day celebrations were when I was single, and honestly, that may be because I put in more effort and did exactly what I wanted instead of what my partner wanted. There were zero compromises, and the evening met all my expectations.
There are so many ways you can celebrate and show yourself some love this year. Whether you can’t physically be with your partner or don’t have a partner to be with, here are 6 ways you can celebrate Valentine’s as a single baddie.
1. Have a movie night.
Although you may be tempted to put on The Notebook (again), skip it, and opt for a movie that will make you happy you are single. There are plenty of films that hilariously celebrate a single woman’s life or others that will make you swear off marriage. Some of my favorites are Marriage Story, Blue Valentine, Hustlers, First Wives Club, Little Women, and Girls trip. Most of these are available on Netflix too!
Once you’ve picked your movie, you need to get some good vibes going. This night is special, so you want to treat it as such. Treat yourself to a bottle of good champagne or a superior bottle of wine. Get all your favorite snacks or order in dinner. Try and do things that you don’t normally do. Buy yourself some flowers and maybe a present. Wear something special, light candles, and settle in. I recommend putting your phone away too. Watching other people live their lives instead of living your own can be a real mood-killer.
2. Host a “crafternoon.”
If you love being creative, have a “crafternoon” or paint night at home. You don’t have to be a good painter to enjoy the process. You can print off a picture, follow a YouTube video, or get a paint-by-numbers canvas for some painting inspiration. Make the evening extra fun by getting a good bottle of wine or making cocktails and having a charcuterie board out so you can sip and nibble as you paint away. If you want more of a Valentine’s Day theme, get paper dollies, red construction paper, and glitter and make your friends homemade Valentine’s. If you are feeling more social, you can organize to meet friends virtually on Zoom, and all take part in the same crafts, sip wine and talk.
3. Treat yourself to a spa night.
With a little forethought and planning, you can have a luxurious spa night at home. First, you need to get the goodies – face masks, cucumbers, creams, candles, and champagne. Decide where you will host your own spa night and set the scene. Tidy up, play spa music, and layout white sheets. Wear a nice robe and slippers if you have them!
Is your favorite spa treatment a massage? Don’t worry, you can still get the muscle-soothing relaxing sensations from a massage while celebrating solo. Picture this - you just had a hot bubble bath complete with rose petals. You get out, put your plush terry robe on, and lay back on your sofa. Candles are light, lights are dim, and you have spa music playing softly in the background. You grab your cordless wand massager and start at your feet, working your way up, massaging your calves, thighs, shoulders, and neck until your body melts into the sofa.
4. Have a living room picnic.
A romantic dinner for one, complete with dessert, is my go-to when celebrating solo. Because this is a special day, do something you don’t normally do. If you usually order Post Mates or Uber eats, why not try cooking yourself a meal? If you usually cook, treat yourself to take-out from your favorite restaurant.
Set up a romantic picnic in your living room. You can lay out a blanket or use a coffee table. Put out candles, pillows, linens, silverware, and flowers. If you have a wine bucket, chill the champagne and place your finest glasses and dinner wear on the table. For dessert, spoil yourself with a decadent cheesecake or chocolate-covered strawberries – they’ll go very well with the champagne!
5. Enjoy a night of self-love.
Just because you don’t have a partner doesn’t mean you can’t bask in the pleasure of an incredible orgasm. Your evening of self-love may start with a warm bath, reading erotica, and watching a sexually charged movie like 365 on Netflix. Dim the lights and light some candles.
If you don’t have a good vibrator already, Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to give yourself the gift of pleasure. Lay back and apply a generous amount of lube to your hand. Begin touching yourself, starting with your clitoris and making your way down. Use a vibrator and dildo combo for a toe-curling experience. If you are looking for a Valentine’s gift, I recommend the Rabbit Vibrator. It’s the gift that keeps on giving!
6. Take a staycation.
With the current situation, travel isn’t an option. However, you can get the feeling of a holiday by staying at a local hotel. The change of scenery can make a world of difference and will make the day feel more special. Pack yourself your favorite snacks and drinks, wear the heavy hotel robe, order in-room service and spend the night indulging in any way you want! With a reduction in travel, many hotels offer incredible rates for luxury suites.
Just because you don’t have a partner to celebrate with on February 14th, it doesn’t mean you can’t have a wonderful time commemorating the day. Focus on spoiling yourself and plan the evening of your dreams. With a bit of creativity and effort, by February 15th, you will be relaxed, recharged, and ready to take on another day being your best single self.