You know that absolutely delicious feeling you get when you're so close to reaching climax, but it's still not happening? That intense moment you can feel is approaching, and it would be fantastic if it could last forever. What if we told you there's a technique called edging that can make you feel like you're a step away from climax over and over again? But really what is edging?
Well, edging is an orgasm control technique that involves maintaining sexual arousal while delaying climax. Normally a BDSM practice, edging is actually much more than that, and you can understand the benefits of such a practice only by trying it. But is it safe? Can you give it a shot at home? Is it actually fun? Can you try it with clit sucking vibrators, or is it only possible with a partner? These are essential questions that we will answer in this blog post.
Let’s dive in!
What Is Edging?
Edging, also known as teasing, the stop-and-start technique, orgasm denial, surfing, or peaking, gained popularity in the 1950s as a method of addressing premature ejaculation while ensuring sexual stimulation. It basically means bringing yourself (or someone else) almost to the brink of orgasm, then stopping or dramatically slowing whatever you’re doing so that there is no orgasm; you can delay orgasm for as much as you want. Of course, that doesn't sound like a lot of fun, but edging doesn't stop here.
After taking it slow, to avoid climax, the sexual stimulation is resuming 30 seconds (or however long) later, once or as many times as you want. As mentioned earlier, it is a practice developed to avoid premature ejaculation, which means it is usually talked about when it comes to men. Still, anyone can practice edging to spice things up in terms of sexual wellness and sexual satisfaction.
In other words, we can say that edging is just between erectile dysfunction and sexual performance.
You might also have heard the term “edge play,” a set of BDSM practices that involve psychologically and physically intense play at the very limit of what someone can handle. While edge play can be extremely hot and rewarding between experienced practitioners, it also requires a significant knowledge base and comes with risks, so today we're sticking to edging orgasms, which may be considered sexual medicine for an intense orgasm.
Edging is for everyone because we all deserve to experience intense physical sensations—and edging with a partner is not a must. As previously stated, you can also try this technique with a sex toy, and you don't have to break the bank to do so because you can select one (or more!) of the cheap sex toys available on Tracy's Dog. You can achieve a delayed orgasm without the support of anyone. Just like you can buy yourself flowers!
The Fun Behind Edging
Even though it may appear at first glance that edging is only there to put a stop to a promising orgasm, it can actually be a very entertaining exercise. This technique can help men better control their ejaculation and thus give and receive more pleasure. For women, this pause and restart of sexual stimulation results in a much more intense orgasm.
According to a study conducted by the International Society for Sexual Medicine, edging can result in stronger, more powerful, and longer orgasms for everyone involved, which might be yet another definition of fun, right?
The Benefits of Edging
Edging has no negative effects, but it can rather contribute to a more intense and satisfying sexual life. However, it is understandable that such a practice is not for everyone. For example, edging is not appealing to an anorgasmic person, who has difficulty reaching orgasm.
This practice, which is more about how to last longer in bed, has a few benefits that can be translated into both mental and sexual health.
- Faster onset of orgasm - This benefit is especially for women. Constant stimulation contributes to a greater sensitization of the vagina, so you can reach orgasm faster. You don't necessarily need a partner to reap the benefits of edging. You could just as easily use a sex toy like OG Pro 2 or P. Cat. Not to mention that you can also use sex toys with a partner.
- The orgasm is much more intense - Edging contributes particularly to the intensity of the orgasm, as it is a constant come and go that adds to the increase in sexual tension felt.
- Preventing premature ejaculation - Edging first appeared as an exercise to avoid premature ejaculation. As a result of this stop-start method, men can learn how to better control their own bodies in order to have stronger orgasms.
How To Try Edging For The First Time
“To help your orgasms become more intense and longer, you have to [...] open your mind to the possibility that your orgasms can be more intense and last longer. If you have never heard of or thought of something, that thing does not exist in your universe,” write Vera and Steve Bodansky in Extended Massive Orgasm, their book on expanding and prolonging sexual pleasure. So let’s assume that you can experience orgasms that are more intense and longer than those you currently experience. How do you do that?
Like anything sexual, the best way to try edging for the first time is alone. You are your first and best sexual partner, and can be in touch with your body from the inside in a way that even the most attuned partner can never be. Settle in, get present with your body, masturbate as usual, and then when you feel like you’re about to reach orgasm... stop. If you’re using a sex toy, switch between the highest setting and the lowest, or stop stimulation entirely (it's not the time for a premature orgasm!).
Just like that.
After a short while, start masturbating again. Repeat as many times as you want or can stand. Pay attention to how you feel not only if you eventually orgasm but also all the way along. How does your body feel? How does your eventual orgasm feel? It might be downright explosive – but it might also feel a little bit thwarted. It’s okay to have different experiences by edging, because there are personal factors involved for everyone. With time, you might be able to edge for longer and have increasingly intense orgasms.
With a partner, edging can be a way to both prolong sex and practice communication. Before practicing edging, it is essential to discuss it with your partner, so that everyone is on the same page.
Just like when you edge alone, have sex (it also applies for mutual masturbation) and, when you’re close to orgasm, say so and together briefly slow the stimulation. You can take this moment to change positions, or you can simply breathe. Increase the stimulation again and edge as many times as you can handle. Over time, you’ll also get better at paying attention to each other’s sexual responses and will be better able to pull back and achieve orgasm together without as much verbal communication.
Edging can be experienced also through oral stimulation, so that your sexual intercourse & delayed ejaculation is something to remember.
The best part of sex isn’t the orgasms; it’s everything that leads up to them. Edging can be a great way to get in touch with your own body, to experience new pleasures, and to also build a stronger sexual connection with your partner.
And it is a method so versatile that it can be tried with oral sex, sex toys or regular sex; the choice is yours!